Excess Sex

Avoidance tactics are often used as coping mechanisms to temporarily alleviate emotional pain associated with loss. Though in excess, your life begins to spiral.

In order to assist you with this we are doing a series of posts that delve into the eight most common avoidance tactics.

Today is day seven and we are looking at:


Some people turn to excessive or promiscuous sexual behaviour as a way to find a temporary sense of connection and pleasure, which can serve as a distraction from grief.

However, this can lead to risky behaviours and emotional consequences.

Some of the long term negative effects from indulging in this avoidance tactic can be:

  • Personal:

    Risky sexual behaviour can lead to physical health issues, emotional turmoil and potential addiction.

  • Relationships:

    Promiscuity can lead to strained relationships and a lack of emotional intimacy.

  • Work:

    Sexual behaviour may result in workplace issues, such as harassment or conflicts.

  • Financial:

    Costs related to sexual encounters, like contraceptives or health services, can impact financial stability.

To assist you to self-assess whether you are using these tactics to avoid dealing with your grief here are:

Five Contemplations for YOU to Ponder:

  • Have I engaged in risky or promiscuous sexual behaviour as a way to fill an emotional void?
  • Is sex becoming a primary means of avoiding or escaping my grief?
  • Have I noticed that my sexual behaviours have increased since my loss?
  • Are there feelings of emptiness or emotional detachment associated with my sexual encounters?
  • Have I experienced negative consequences or regrets related to my sexual behaviour?

If you find that you are, please reach out to us for support and guidance, so we can assist you to transition to more loving and constructive grieving strategies.

Until we meet again, please remember that you are Simply the BEST!

Karen and Lesley


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