Avoidance tactics are often used as coping mechanisms to temporarily alleviate emotional pain associated with loss. Though in excess, your life begins to spiral.

In order to assist you with this we are doing a series of posts that delve into the eight most common avoidance tactics.

Today is day two and we are looking at:


Expressing anger is a defense mechanism used to deflect feelings of sadness and vulnerability.

Instead of confronting your grief, you may become irritable or even lash out at others in an attempt to avoid your true emotions.

The long term negative effects from indulging in this avoidance tactic can be:

  1. Personal:

    Suppressing grief with anger can lead to emotional exhaustion, increased stress, and heightened risk of health problems.

  2. Relationships:

    Expressing anger inappropriately can damage relationships, making it difficult to find emotional support during a time of loss.

  3. Work:

    Frequent outbursts or irritability can result in conflicts with coworkers and supervisors, potentially leading to job instability.

  4. Financial:

    Legal issues stemming from anger-related incidents can result in financial repercussions.

To assist you to self-assess whether you are using these tactics to avoid dealing with your grief here are:

Five Contemplations for YOU to Ponder:

  • Am I frequently experiencing anger or irritability that seems out of proportion to the situation?
  • Do I use anger as a defense mechanism to avoid acknowledging my grief and sadness?
  • Has my anger caused conflicts with friends, family, or coworkers?
  • Am I using anger to deflect from feelings of vulnerability and sadness?
  • Do I feel trapped in a cycle of anger and frustration without addressing the root cause?

If you find that you are, please reach out to us for support and guidance, so we can assist you to transition to more constructive grieving strategies.

Until we meet again, please remember that you are Simply the BEST!

Karen and Lesley


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