Entries by Karen Chaston

Are these Cliches Helping or Hindering?

People repeat clichés all the time. Not even realising what they are saying. Mainly as they have heard them for most of their life. No matter what which of the 40+ loss events, people will utilise these various clichés: “Get a hold of yourself.” “You’re strong, you’ll be ok.” “You can’t fall apart.” “We understand […]

Discipline Focus Consistency

  Are you ready to dive into the world of personal growth with our latest newsletter: “Discipline, Focus, and Consistency: Your Key to Moving Beyond Limitations.” Unlock the secrets to your unique strengths and how they shape your approach to life’s challenges. Discover how Discipline, Focus, and Consistency can work together to supercharge your progress. […]

Are your beliefs causing your pain?

Beliefs are basically the guiding principles in life that provide direction and meaning for our life. Beliefs are the pre-set, organised filters to our perceptions of the world (external and internal). Beliefs are like ‘internal commands’ to the brain as to how to interpret what is happening, when we congruently believe something to be true. […]

Psychologically Why We Suffer So Much

Sigmund Freud used the analogy of an iceberg to describe the three levels of the mind. The Conscious Mind (tip of the iceberg, above the water): consists of all the mental processes of which we are aware. The Preconscious Mind (just below the surface): contains thoughts and feelings that a person is not currently aware […]

Why People Bully

Recently, Karen had a conversation with Jane, a young teacher’s aide, who shared her distressing experience of leaving her previous industry due to workplace bullying. Her story highlighted the critical issue of workplace bullying, an issue that still persists and goes unchecked in many organisations. As a former CFO, Karen was appalled to hear about […]

Choose You: A More Loving Way

Life is a journey of ups and downs, like the rhythm of a heartbeat. But would a straight-line existence bring us the joy and meaning we seek? Probably not. The peaks and valleys, the unexpected challenges, are what give life its richness. In this week’s newsletter I share my ignorant response in choosing strength over […]

Learning From Our Children

When we are children, before we are convinced that our emotions are inappropriate, we can move through them very quickly and return to our natural state of joy. We are naturally joyous beings and when something is interfering with that natural state of joy, it needs to be addressed and the sooner the better. The […]

Why We Suffer So Much

Loss for all of us is inevitable. We all will face multiple major losses throughout our lives. It could be a death of a loved one, a divorce, separation, job loss, your health, your pets or any of the other 40 plus loss events. Love is also inevitable. We are constantly moving between love and loss […]

The Symptons of Grief

Grief is a complex and highly individual experience and understanding its various aspects can be helpful for those going through it, as well as for those who want to support others at this time. It’s important to note that whilst grief can manifest in various ways, it’s a natural response to any kind of loss, […]

Busting Grief’s Traditions: Honouring Individual Paths to Healing

There are many social traditions around loss that have been passed down for centuries. The funny thing is that not many of us have taken the time to question, why this is so? Many of us follow them blindly and continue to say the things that others have said all because we are uncomfortable around […]